HELP: n. By definition means the activity of contributing to the fulfillment of a need or furtherance of an effort or purpose (iGoogle). v. give help or assistance; be of service (iGoogle).
From my understanding a person must be willing to receive that help just as well as a person is willing to provide it. I have been placed in too many positions in which I have been readily available to provide whatever help necessary, yet there has never really been a receptive person willing to accept whatever assistance it was that I was willing to give. Take into consideration your life partner. Everyday since you have been together it seems like you are a team, for the most part, and other times it feels as though you are working against one another. My only explanation for this is the fact that neither one of you are really receptive the the gift the other is trying to provide. HELP! This goes for me too. I often am the first to say "what do you need?" or "I"ll see what I can do" and for what? To be blown away by how much he/she doesn't care in the least bit how much I may have to go through to provide my services. Its not easy being the provider 100% of the time with no one to fall back on as your safety blanket. I was once told "I DON'T WANT ANY HELP!" and the same people who have made such declarations have been the same people to search for help in other places. Is it me ?! Or is it the fact that the manner in which I provide help is in truth not empathy. Whatever it is I hope your happy because this will be the last time you hear the words "Do you need HELP?" roll of these lips. The slightest bit of concern has been wiped from my mind and now its back to the drawing board, back to square one where it all began and I didn't care enough to know the difference between what I wanted and how others felt.
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